HOW TO GET OUT OF AN ARRANGED MARRAIGE PLEASE HELP!!

pretty much

Dave how were the withdrawal symptoms while you were away? (or is it broadband, so whenever the comp is on, you are loged in?)

you could do a study on internet addiction.. see what cures it....

then I can use the curesafely knowing it has been tested...

What do you mean?

well... it took you no time to regain your crown as uber dave.

Is that because of always-on broadband? (so you use your pc to do work... but as internet is on, you continue to browse at the same time... and forget about your work like I used to at uni...)

if people read this they will think we (well I) are sad... such a poor topic...

But hey people already thionk that, so I have nothing to lose!

:twisted:

nevermind... cheney is far more interesting...

ohhh right

yea it's the broadband thing - also I go to a college in a small town so there is little to do.

And since my girlfriend goes to a school far away I have to really cut the normal social activities down.

Most stuff on campus is centered around meeting people

I spend most of my day working on my project and doing pushups to not turn into the "flabulous" dave

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]TEN HOT TIPS ON HOW TO GET OUT OF AN ARRANGED MARRAIGE

1-Uni Bum

staying on in higher Education is very succesful in avoiding an arranged marraige all u have to do is get into Uni (thats easy-just choose sociology :twisted: )

Work hard in ur first year, take a year out to travel, complete sec year, take another year out to travel, finish ur last year, mess up ur last semester (just tell ur teachers that ur emotionally traumatised by ur parents trying to force u into marraige :twisted: )

take a year our to travel, do ur masters, then ur FINISHED!, take a year out again, spend some time "struggling" to establish urself

by this time u shoud be 29 or 30 well past the sell by date-ur parents will be so desperate to get rid of u they will wed u to whoever u want 😃

2-You dark horse

As an asian u should know that no guy wants a girl who is darker then the average cup of chai. So visit the tanning salon, wear gold to make u look darker :twisted: and put on weight

if ur not "slim and white" then no one will want to marry u

3-Holy Moly

No one wants to marry a religious extremist. Sprout views of terrorism and everyone will run away frm u

4-Be A bum

If ur a guy-get a crap job. No dad will give u his daughter. And if ur a girl do NOT learn how to cook and clean and make ur extreme radical feminist views clear. No guy will want you

5-BE HEARTLESS

just tell the guy/girl that ur parents are trying to set u up with that u NOT INTRESTED. do everything under the sun to make them go off u

6-Big up single life

tell ur parents that remaining unmarried is good for u as an evil son/daughter in law will just "take u away from ur darling parents"

7-Commit suicide

this is a great cry for help. It gets ur point across and parents realise how serious u are. There's one draw back though.

Your dead.

8-Dress Down

If u a guy dress either like a freshi or a black guy. If your a girl dress like a tart-whilst guys do like to bog at such woman-no guy will make u his wife

9-Insult the potential mother in law

Nuf said.

10-Just say NO!!!

if ur a girl and ur parents are strict then just call up someone-either a scholar or an organisation that will help u out of this mess

if ur a guy, just be a MAN and put ur foot down. After all what can they really do?

But just remember after u have said no NEVER take a holiday back home. unless ur really stupid and cant see whats being plotted.

GOOD LUCK[/quote]

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool MS that was so funny, I needed that 😃

I'm still in the same situation and I don't know what will happen. I asked dad if he would take me to Hajj so we'll see what happens. At the moment though I'm having doubts regarding my boyfriend :?

that was sooo funny. got to show that to my mum, she would love it!

actually better not, she will realize i have been using some of thise points myself.

hence going on to second masters next year after a year out....

…Guys the above was just written in jest… :?

It was written in an immature mood. I hope no one acts on any of the above…a simple “No” can also get the job done.

[quote="MuslimSister"]…Guys the above was just written in jest… :?

It was written in an immature mood. I hope no one acts on any of the above…a simple “No” can also get the job done.[/quote]

Wait are my eyes going bad.. I thought your sister wrote that

[quote="Constantine"]

Wait are my eyes going bad.. I thought your sister wrote that[/quote]

She copied it out from an old note pad of mine... :?

I wrote that a few years ago. :oops:

[quote="MuslimSister"][quote="Constantine"]

Wait are my eyes going bad.. I thought your sister wrote that[/quote]

She copied it out from an old note pad of mine... :?

I wrote that a few years ago. :oops:[/quote]

lol you're a complexed girl

[quote="Constantine"][quote="MuslimSister"][quote="Constantine"]

Wait are my eyes going bad.. I thought your sister wrote that[/quote]

She copied it out from an old note pad of mine... :?

I wrote that a few years ago. :oops:[/quote]

lol you're a complexed girl[/quote]

Lol-Yep my immature side is just as strong as my serious side...

Is love marriage better or Arrange?

i dnt know but guys......i hav been sooo much i think its not best to do love.........specially people from the bck country sorry not trying to offend anyone :oops:

but........

its actually true cuz i hav bin betrayd twice.....and its bin really hard to decide......tats y i object against love marriage..........

wat u lot think???

[quote="paki_gal"]......tats y i object against love marriage..........

wat u lot think???[/quote]

i object against both kinds of marriages

cos I don't believe in blindly following parents decisions NOR do I beleive in doing LURVE before marraige

the answer is somthing between the two

therefore, arranged

its not forced...nor is it 'love' marriage

I'd "arrange" my own marraige :twisted:

but I wouldnt be loved up about it

your yet to find out..........doin it yourself aint easy, trust me

you are a youngling lol

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]your yet to find out..........doin it yourself aint easy, trust me

you are a youngling lol[/quote]

u speaking from experinece :twisted:

whats so difficult about liking sumone and telling him thru someone else to come to my house and ask my parents?

tell me how it goes.....

situation: you like that person, you both ask the parents.....and one or both say no

then what?

you can walk away, but u cant stop liking the person

easier said than done, altho it can be done, its not easy

unless you have a good reason to stop likin em

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]tell me how it goes.....

situation: you like that person, you both ask the parents.....and one or both say no

then what?

you can walk away, but u cant stop liking the person

easier said than done, altho it can be done, its not easy

unless you have a good reason to stop likin em[/quote]

u like the person

u ask the parents

one or both say no

u get depressed for one week

u get over it and realise that there are plenty more fish in the sea

u start liking someone else but u learn from ur mistakes and try not get attached at all to the next person u fall for

not that hard is it?

nope

but it aint a week

unless you barely liked em 😂

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]nope

but it aint a week

unless you barely liked em :lol:[/quote]

length of time it takes to get over sumeone depends on how attached u were in the first place

safe option is not to get too attached in the first place

True

your probz right

salaamz.. yo ramz u said u dnt believe in "arrange marriages"... y not??? arrange marriage is when both side of the parties aggree to the niqa. first n foremost the guy and the girl have to agree. if this condition is met thn ever1 goes home happy, so wre is the prob???... well the prob is in forced marriages... forced marriages could be done through "mental" pressure or forcefully taking sum1 bk "home"... so dnt get confused btwn foced n arrange marriages... the western media try to wipe the both with the same brush :x ... anyway hope it works out4u... maa baff re bala teake buzayo... 😛

[quote="ALquds"]salaamz.. yo ramz u said u dnt believe in "arrange marriages"... y not??? arrange marriage is when both side of the parties aggree to the niqa. first n foremost the guy and the girl have to agree. if this condition is met thn ever1 goes home happy, so wre is the prob???... well the prob is in forced marriages... forced marriages could be done through "mental" pressure or forcefully taking sum1 bk "home"... so dnt get confused btwn foced n arrange marriages... the western media try to wipe the both with the same brush :x ... anyway hope it works out4u... maa baff re bala teake buzayo... :P[/quote]

very good point, i did my final year dissertation on the portrayal of arranged marriages in the media....my findings showed that the british media cannot distingusih between the two different types of marraiges...although they tried....there is a clear difference

ramz cant have an arranged marraige if she's hooked on someone else :roll:

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]ramz cant have an arranged marraige if she's hooked on someone else :roll:[/quote]

sure she can... she just has to agree to it.

she can always unhook later on.

hav faith that god nows best and do the right thing.

so she should marry someone else whilst she loves her paki boyfriend

ruin that the innocent guys life and bring grief to his family?

great advice Garfield :roll: :roll:

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]so she should marry someone else whilst she loves her paki boyfriend

ruin that the innocent guys life and bring grief to his family?

great advice Garfield :roll: :roll:[/quote]

You forgot the part where she unhooks herself from the first guy...

jeez read past the first line woman. :roll:

Cling onto the guy whose marrying you coz he's obviously got the gutts to go ahead with it.

Romeos of the world: If your gonna talk the talk then learn to walk the walk.

if it was so easy to unhook urself frm the first guy Ramz wouldnt be moaning and stressing about this dilemna so much :roll: